Cultivating True Love: mindfulness & relationships with Kaira Jewel Lingo

Explore how to cultivate true love and bring mindfulness into all of your relationships on this retreat led by an inspirational teacher.

Cultivating True Love retreat at Sharpham

Kaira Jewel Lingo will lead this retreat on bringing mindfulness to relationships – including those with ourselves, a partner, within our family, with friends, in our workplace or community.

You’ll study each of the four elements of true love: loving kindness, compassion, joy and equanimity/inclusiveness, learning how to apply the elements to yourself and to others. By creating strong, loving and lasting relationships in our families and communities, we help to build a mindful, healthy culture.

Kaira Jewel was an ordained nun of 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh’s Order of Interbeing, and is now a lay Dharma teacher based in Washington DC, leading retreats in the U.S. and internationally.

Read on for more details on this retreat and click the Leaders, Schedules and Venue & Directions tabs above for further information.

In community at Sharpham

Learning with an inspirational teacher

This retreat is for you if you:

  • want to go deeper into mindfulness, with an experienced teacher close at hand
  • have existing experience of meditation
  • are aged 18 and above

Learn deep listening and loving speech

This retreat will include a focus on mindful communication: deep listening and loving speech.

You’ll be journalling, writing love letters and learning practices for reconciling conflict.

Kaira Jewel will share creative and nature connection practices that help towards the cultivation of true love, plus you’ll experience mindful movement and walking meditation.

There will be a maximum of 36 participants on this retreat.

There are periods of silence on each of our retreats.

Be embraced by nature at Sharpham

What you’ll experience on this retreat

During this retreat you’ll:

  • practice guided and non-guided meditations, exploring and developing mindfulness in the supportive company of others with time for discussion and personal practice
  • be living in safe community with like-minded people, bringing mindfulness to everyday experiences and tasks with work periods in the kitchen, House and gardens
  • be able to explore our tranquil Capability Brown-designed parkland and our Grade 2*-listed gardens designed by Percy Cane
  • have a chance to select either single-occupancy rooms for your own space, or share rooms at a smaller cost. Click here to explore our rooms
  • Delicous vegetarian food at Sharphamenjoy delicious, healthy, home-cooked vegetarian food that regularly receives rave reviews and have access to 24-hour hot teas, coffee & infusions in our Toasting Room
  • be cared for full-board in a Grade 1-listed Georgian House surrounded by history and art, with staff looking after you, in a designated Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty close to nature, amid breath-taking scenery on the banks of the River Dart

Be embraced by the landscape at Sharpham

Mindfulness in nature at Sharpham

When you experience Sharpham's inspiring and nourishing environment, we hope you'll connect spiritually with the natural world, so you’ll:

  • become aware of how we are all part of nature - not artificially separate from it
  • pay attention to and appreciate the natural world surrounding us
  • explore nature through your senses and your natural creativity
  • Tread more lightly on our finite planet, developing a respect and reverence for all living things

Click here to read our ethos and principles

What might you bring?

If you decide to stay with us, we’ll send you a list of what you need to bring for this retreat in your Welcome Letter. But you might consider the following:

  • Comfy clothes for meditation, movement and relaxation
  • Slippers (we supply some, but you might prefer your own)
  • A journal or notepad if you want to write or draw during your time here
  • Walking boots – we have wonderful footpaths and routes to explore
  • Running gear if you’re a jogger. Some participants love to run on the lanes and footpaths near Sharpham

Find out more about staying in Sharpham House on our Frequently Asked Questions page.

Delicious food at Sharpham House

Our food & your dietary needs

The retreat is full-board with delicious home-cooked vegetarian food. 

In line with sustainable practices across the Estate, our cooks produce seasonal, vegetarian food for our guests. We source food whenever possible from our kitchen garden and support local food suppliers. The Estate's farm tenants produce award-winning wine and cheese as well as organic eggs, meat and vegetables.

We are used to accommodating a wide range of dietary needs including wheat-free, diary-free, vegan etc. Please indicate on your booking form if you have a dietary need. The booking form is sent as a link once you have booked and paid for a retreat.

Your physical and mental health

This retreat is suitable for you if you are new to mindfulness, or seeking to renew or reconnect with your practice.

Although meditation and mindfulness can be helpful in managing stress, depression and anxiety our retreats might not be suitable if you are experiencing major depression or other clinically diagnosed psychiatric illness such as bipolar disorder, psychosis or current self-harming. Click here for more information and for our booking process.

We have an accessible en-suite bedroom The Clare Milne Room – click here for details on how to book this room

If you have a medical condition that requires you to have an en-suite room, please contact our Programme Administrator Louisa Potter on the number below as these rooms are limited and are bookable on a first-come first-serve basis.


The beauty of Sharpham House and its surroundings is readily apparent, but it’s the special alchemy that happens inside the house when that’s combined with mindfulness and human warmth and connectedness that makes a stay here so memorable and powerful to the soul.


The River Dart from Sharpham

If you're coming to stay with us on retreat, it is important to make a commitment to arrive in time for the first group meeting and to attend all the days.

This ensures you experience the retreat programme from start to finish and helps your group of participants to gel.

Day 1:

Afternoon Evening
4.00pm - 5.00pm - Arrival

6.15pm - Supper and washing up

5.15pm - Welcome meeting, House tour, settling in                                                        8.15pm - Guided meditation
                       9.00pm - House moves into silence until 8.30am, supporting individual mindfulness and reflection     

Typical Schedule (this will adjust to each teacher's needs)


Mornings Afternoons/evenings
6.30am – Wake up 12.20pm – Meditation (some guided) 
7.00am  Meditation 1.00pm – Lunch
8.00am – Breakfast / tasks 2.00pm – Personal time           
                                                  2.30pm – Teaching
9.50am – Silence ends, meeting 5.00pm – Meditation 
11am – Mindful tasks 6.00pm – Light supper
12.15 - Walking Meditation 7.00pm – Meditation (some guided)
  9.00pm –  House moves into silence until 9.00am the next day, supporting individual mindfulness and reflection

The final day is as above with a closing meeting at 10.30am, and your departure by 12 noon.

Having the guidance of such a gifted and kind teacher around you is priceless.

Kaira led the retreat beautifully, radiating her practice throughout the week. It was one of those experiences that is so hard to put into words - experiential rather than intellectual. Will definitely try and book again with her.

She brought a lightness of spirit, joy and fun and a diversity of activities each day - not simply walking and sitting but more interactive and sangha building. Yet the breadth and depth of the practice touched me deeply.

This retreat takes place in the beautiful and historic Grade 1-listed Sharpham House set in a Capability Brown-designed landscape with stunning views over the steeply-wooded River Dart.

Click here for our How to Find Us page on this website.

Click here to view and download directions and a map to Sharpham House

Click here view and download walking/cycling directions to Sharpham House

Aerial shot of Sharpham House

If you have a medical condition that requires you to have an en-suite room, please contact our Programme Administrator Louisa Potter on the number below as these rooms are limited and are bookable on a first-come first-served basis.

Just to let you know, we have poor mobile phone coverage – which we see as a virtue. While there is wi-fi in Sharpham House, we encourage you to disconnect from ‘the network’ so you can fully retreat when you’re here.

We are 3 miles from Totnes – famous for its Transition Town movement

We are in a designated Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty


We take sustainability seriously.

All of the hot water and heating in the House is produced by a state-of-the-art biomass woodchip boiler and we have 2 large photo-voltaic solar panel arrays on barn rooftops.

Eco-gardens at Sharpham

Our gardens are managed organically and we only use bio-degradable cleaning products.

5 nights

£350 – Shared room, full-board

£495 - Single occupancy, full-board

Room types

Sharing rooms
These are a mixture of our more spacious rooms, some grander than others - but all comfy and bright.

Sharing room at Sharpham House

Single occupancy
If you want privacy, choose a single occupancy room. You’ll pay a bit more but you’ll have your own space.

Single occupancy room in Sharpham House

A single or a shared room?

Our shared rooms accommodate between 2 to 4 people at a lower price.

There are male and female rooms – not mixed.

When you share a room there’s a sense of community, but there’s also no obligation to chat or socialise. Retreats go into silence from 9pm to 9am each day, allowing you to drop into your own peace and quietitude.


A shared bathroom at Sharpham

Because Sharpham House is a Grade 1-listed mansion (with limits to the changes we are allowed to make to the building), few bedrooms come with an en-suite bathroom and toilet. There are shared bathrooms on every floor.

If you have a medical condition that requires you to have an en-suite room, please contact our Programme Administrator Louisa Potter on the number below as these rooms are limited and are bookable on a first-come first-served basis.

Our accessible rooms

We have an accessible en-suite bedroom The Clare Milne Room – click here for details on how to book this room


Limited bursaries offering reduced-price retreats are available for those experiencing financial hardship. Please contact the Programme Administrator at least 4 weeks in advance if you wish to apply.

Our bursary fund relies on donations. If you’d like to help another to go on retreat here through our bursary scheme, you can give online quickly and easily by clicking here

All rooms have tea & coffee-making facilities and towels are provided. Click here to see more about our rooms

Kaira Jewel Lingo

Kaira Jewel Lingo teaches Buddhist meditation, mindfulness, and compassion internationally, with a focus on activists, people of colour, artists, educators, families and youth. She began practising mindfulness in 1997.

An ordained nun of 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh’s Order of Interbeing, she is now a lay Dharma teacher based in Washington DC, leading retreats in the U.S. and internationally and offering mindfulness programs for educators and youth in schools.

She edited Thich Nhat Hanh’s Planting Seeds: Practicing Mindfulness with Children and helped to start and develop Wake Up Schools, cultivating mindfulness in education.

She explores the interweaving of art, play, ecology and spiritual practice and is a certified yoga teacher and InterPlay leader. In spring 2015 and 2016, she was spiritual practitioner in residence at Schumacher College.

In addition to her roots in the Zen tradition, she also practices and teaches in the Vipassana tradition, and is an affiliate teacher for the Insight Meditation Community of Washington DC. She contributed a chapter to the book Real World Mindfulness from Callisto Press.

Visit kairajewel.com to learn more.

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